Friday, January 30, 2009

The Service

I know its the same title but it is what is. The service was amazing. There were over 500 people at this airplane hanger.What a testament and tribute to this man's life and the kind of person he was. Very touching. Barb got up and spoke and she did it with such grace. I dont think I could have done it. I dont know.
He was such a good person with the most giving heart. Always smiling from ear to ear. He loved flying and he did die doing what he loved doing. Not alot of people can say that. He lived life to the fullest and had lots of toys and gadgets. He was so fun. He loved nature so much. He was an amzing man and I am so thankful I had known someone like that. Not a selfish bone in his body.
They played amazing grace and then had a missing man formation fly over. And that just did me in. I just balled and balled and balled. It was just so heart breaking. It was so final. It still brings tears to my eyes.
Dido and I met up at Chili's for lunch after and margaritas. Then we went shopping for stuff to make a board to put on an easel for my old boss's retirement party.
There will be this band who won 1st place as Arizona's band. The hampton's. Dont have any idea. But a live music, open bar, and catered food. We need a nice release after such an aweful last week.
JJ is coming up tomorrow to go with me. It will be nice for us to go have some fun away from the craziness. Then on sunday we are going back down to Phoenix for the superbowl. I am then going shoping at Lane bryants for my thong underwear. My dog has chewed up several pairs. They are not cheap. Have lunch with my friend, Sher and head back up.
In the morning I plan on getting up and go work out. Go to the mall to find a pair of pants to wear tomorrow nite and come home and clean. Change my sheets, vacumn, dust, and clean my bathroom. It will feel good to get that stuff done. And then have fun. The party starts at 6pm. So who knows til what time. I am thinking we should take a cab and not drive. Just go have fun and not think about it.
Well good nite to all. And I hope all is well with everyone.

The Service

Today is the service for Frank. I am not looking forward to this at all. It is going to be so sad and I am sure there will be funny and happy stuff. They are calling it a celebration of life. But all I feel is the sadness for Barb and what she must be going thru. And whats to come. The reaching in the night for him and he is not there and wont be. When she came by work and talked about going to the crash site, she said it helped but then said since she wont see Frank anymore and that just made me so sad for her. I looked at a couple of pics of them yesterday at work and all I could think is this fucking sucks. I dont understand why these things happen. How really good people die and who is left behind to deal with it.
I will be glad when this is over. I am just not looking forward to this at all. The weather is decent. The service will be held at the hanger out at the airport. Dido and I are going out afterwards for lunch and drinks after. I just got off the phone with her.
Time to go get ready. She is trying to keep me upbeat on it being a celebration his life and I know that but like I said this fucking sucks!

Sunday, January 25, 2009

2nd day

Alrighty 2nd day to paint and get some more accomplished. I have already cleaned my kitchen, enjoyed my morning coffee with the weekend creamer, made me a deliscious breakfast. I made Taylor ham, only people on the east coast know what that is, hash browns, scrambled eggs, and toast. Yummy w/ a glass of milk. Good way to start the day.
I am about ready to get myself motivated to move on. I want to throw a load of clothes in and then start painting. I am going to use the paint wand with the tube to fill up with paint and get more done in less time. Not having to stop every time to put paint on the roller. Save my back and arms.
I cant believe what a difference it made. With some curtains in there, it will look so good. Great 1st impression when you walk in the house. Thats what its all about.
I do have a nice house. I hope a nice family wants it and get to really enjoy it big time.
Well off to get motivated!!!

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Accomplishments

Okay I worked out and then bought paint and supplies to start the front room. Taking pics as I go so you can see the progress. I got 2 full walls done and most of the other 3 walls done with the 1st coat of paint. Woohoo. Windows opened. Cool breeze blowing thru. Quiet. Needed that.
My ceiling is vaulted and so the walls get taller as they go in the direction towards the middle of the house. Now there are not just 4 walls but 5. Very cool. The thing that I fell in love with on this house is the archetecture of it. Low walls and tall walls. Makes it feel open they way they did it. I did love this house and I will be sad when I leave it but at the same time, a weight lifted off of my shoulders. Big time. I will be walking away from my old life and starting a new life. Wow, scary scary. But you know what I am a strong person and a good profession, not a problem!
I am questioning if I am going to keep my big table and buffet in the front room. Takes up alot of space and what if I cant find a house that it can fit in. I dont know. I am truely giving what I keep alot of thought. This whole process of moving on takes alot of thought and purpose and not by the skin of my ass, as they say. lol. So anyway there you go.

Life is Short

Well there was an aweful tragedy that happened yesterday. A coworkers husband died in a plane crash. He has his own plane and was leaving for Yuma. He barely got out of Flagstaff when he was having problems and flew into trees and it kiled him and another guy. He flew over the interstate and luckily there was a dps officer that watched him go down. Unfortuately the area he went down in is extremily woody and difficult to get into. It was absolutely aweful day. Whats really aweful is that she burried her previous husband 10 years ago from brain cancer. And now this. The sherrifs came to work to talk to her. They said they didnt know at that moment if he was alive or not but within 15 to 20 mins I looked up the newspaper on line and it stated 2 died in plane crash. It was so freakin shocking. All of us at work were so upset but we couldnt stop because we were busy and had patients. I cried so much yesterday. By the after noon they had released their names and it just made it that much more real. Then the pictures came later and then video on the phoenix news.
What a nitemare.
Barb and Frank were so in love and he was an absolute doll. They loved each other so much. He was friendly and funny. I have been around him many times and just thought the world of him. Barb is this super sweet, calming soul. She doesnt get out of sorts over things. So easy going and wish I could be more like her. They had all these plans for their retirement. They have land in utah that they were working on to build their retirement home. And now all their plans are gone. Finished. No more.
Man you never know what the day will bring.
The service will be on Friday at the airport hanger. I will be there for sure. I am so sad over this whole thing. We are like a family at work and take care of each other. I just cant imagine how she will get over this and move on. She is pretty devastated as would I. My heart aches for her.

Crazy. Crazy.

I didnt get called in last nite on call. Thank god, I had no energy to deal with taking care of anyone last nite. It was hard enough doing that yesterday. And patients could see that we were all struggling and would tell them what was wrong. So I am grateful for not getting called in.
I am going to go work out and take these fake ficus trees to savers to donate to get them out of my front room. I am meeting up with dido and coffee after. Also going to home depot to get paint and start painting the front room. One wall at a time. I am also going to take a couple of things to my storage unit to get out of the front room. picutures, little tables, lamps, etc. But clearing it out and then stage the room. One room at a time is how I will go about doing this.
Hope all is well with everyone one else.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Did it

I did it, got a storage unit, 10x20 w/ a wide door. I took the biggest unit to give me enough room to store stuff. I have made 2 trips with a few things to put in it. I put plastic on the floor and some mice poisoning incase the little buggers get in there. I also had a lock for the door. I also made a pile to donate. I am getting the front room cleared out to start to paint. I will buy some paint this weekend and get started on the shortest walls and move my way to the taller ones.
I am truely determined to do this. I have been thinking alot about things. I hope JJ and I can made it thru all this but if not then I will move on knowing that there is something exciting in store for me. I think okay where am I going to go if this doesnt work out with him and phoenix.

A few places have hit me:

1. Florida - near the water, Hurricaines, hmmmmmmmmmm
2. Denton, Tx - Love Denton, always have. Huge lake near by, several hospitals, good pay, and friends and family near by.
3. Austin, Tx- A place I visited once and just loved. Lots of lakes, hospitals, and near family
4. California - Near the water, Earth Quakes, and expensive. hmmmmmmmmmmm
5. North Carolina - Beautiful place, mountains, ocean, Hurricaines. No one I know there.
6. Washingtom, Seattle maybe - Near the water, lots to do, nature is just gorgeous there but lots of rain and clouds in the winter, hmmmmmmmm. not sure on that one.

So time will tell where I will end up. Right now I am and need to concentrate on getting my house in order to sell. Then I can move on from there. Priorities Priorities.
I know being a nurse my options and opportunities are endless big time. So there you go.

Hump Day

Today is hump day and I am off from work. This last week since my last post has been a very wierd time. My weekend didnt go as well as expected. I did go down to phoenix and saw JJ but now his ex is living there and it changes everything. She is too frickin needy. And unfortuately he feels responsible for her due to her being Jr's mom. She is nothing but a user and play on his emotions and she knows how to do this. I truely dont know how this is going to workout. We had a few arguments and I dont know if I can do this with him. We are giving each other a few days to think about things and decide what we are going to do. We love each other and are each other's best friend. But she is screwing with his head and it is interfering with us. I do know how ever it works out I will be okay either way.
I am truely sad over everything and am trying to think positive but I dont know if its enough. Ever since Jr was killed life is has been a nite mare at times. Things go great and then boom something else happens. It sucks.
I am still going thru with my plans of selling my house because I need to get out of this financial burden but after that I dont know. Its funny how you think you have everything planned out for your future and then a wrench gets thrown in the pile.
So today I am going thru stuff to donate again to get out of the house so I can keep seeing what I need to pack up and get rid of next. I also am going back up to look some storage units to see what the sizes are. I cant visualize how big they are.
They are having a special the next 3 months 1/2 off, pay ahead which would bring me to April. Thats kool. I can go from there. The girl asked what kind of stuff am I putting in it since this to sell my house. I said no furniture necessarily. Just boxes of stuff I am keeping to declutter, the rest will be donated. I am not keeping much of the furniture, will sell that when I sell my house. Dont want to take anything from my marriage. I am only keeping my new couch and chair with ottomen, my big table and buffet, book cases, and maybe this desk. Not sure on that. So all in all not alot of furniture. I am defiately really thinking about what stuff I am keeping to pack up. I am going to look at it and say do I really need this or want this. And that will help me decide. I am downsizing big time. Have to. So there you go, this is my day.
About to go grocery shopping and then look at the storage units to get one. So that is my priority. Also put in my vehicle what I put aside to donate and get rid of it. Out with the old stuff. lol.
Yesterday was such a momentous day with our new president and his wife. I feel a sense of hope. Seeing them at the balls dancing together. They are so in love. It gives me hope for the future. I really hope he can make a difference.
Well off to get my rat killing done as they say!

Thursday, January 15, 2009

One more Day!

I am so ready to wake up tomorrow and know its Friday. Go to work and get the heck out of dodge. I am so ready to be in Phoenix this weekend for fun in the sun and time with my honey. Good food, beer, and sex, oh yeah and companionship. lol. Ready for all of the above.
Well work was good. I am doing much better today. Didnt wake up sad. Just woke up thinking is it Friday yet. I did come home and shovel some more. Put more salt down. Pain in the ass. The inside of my palms are killing me. I did go to the store. I got me a bottle of wine and some chicken to cook on the grill for a salad tonight. Yummy. I am also going to catch up with my soap, dust, mop, and pack. woohoo.
Well thats it for now.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Better

I am finally doing better after being sad. I heard the service was really nice and lots of people were there. I wish I could have been there to say good bye. Its amazing how someone you haven't seen in a forever or talk to can still affect you like that.
My dinner with L & C went great last nite. I had a nice time visiting with them. They are such good people. I love them to death. Our meal and desert from outback was deliscious. Yummy. They are going to watch the dogs again this weekend. I figured out C likes Rum, not beer and cant drink wine due to the nitrates so I am going to buy her a bottle of rum or tequila. She loves that also. For L I am going to buy him a bottle of irish cream. Future gifts for sure.
I got off work alittle early and shoveled again in front of my garage door and walk way, where I get no sun, and am finally seeing concrete again. But my palms are hurting because I think I am getting or almost getting blisters so I had to stop and put moisturizer on. They are still sore. But anyway turned on tv, watched young and the restless. I never get tired of that soap ever. I have been watching it since
1976. Funny when they show some old scenes and how you forget that stuff and how the characters looked then, hair and clothes, and youth. lol.
I need to do some laundry tonight and tomorrow nite. I am getting so excited about going down to phoenix. I am ready to see my man and warm up and have fun. I cant wait to be in his arms and just be with him besides some good sex, of course. We are going to see Clint Eastwoods new movie and watch Football and drink beer, Woohoo.
We are so much more lovy dovy on the phone then ever before. We just miss each other so much.
Hope all are well!
Took a short nap and finally vacumned. I am having a glass of wine. Got my dishwasher loaded and next am going to dust. Its time. I have today and tomorrow to get alittle further in my progress of cleaning. It just takes me forever. I never attack in full force unless someone is coming over. Crazy. I dont look at it as pleasing me.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

A day off

After working 7 days in a row I am finally off. I am very tired. I am looking forward to getting some stuff done today though.
I want to get some cleaning done. I was going to work out but I just dont feel like it. Maybe I will work out with tv later. I wish I could get a massage. Oh well.
I am meeting up with my friends C & L who watched my dogs for me over the holidays. I am taking them out to dinner at outback tonight. Get to visit and catch up.
Well off to get my butt in gear.

Glenn

I woke up to finding out an old friend died. His name was Glenn. I worked with him back at my old hospital. He was an OR nurse and we worked the evenings together. He had beaten lung cancer and was living on one lung for the longest time. I guess he couldnt do it anymore. I heard that the last few years he was using an electric cart to get around at work. He is now at rest. Very sad.
I remember some funny stuff he did. He was into magic. He had a dummy made up to look just like him. One nite I walked back into the recovery room and he had it laying on a stretcher. I screamed when I saw it because I didnt know that it was fake at the time. We would pull tricks on each other all the time. He was great to talk to about our relationships and just waiting on cases.
RIP my dear old friend.

Sunday, January 11, 2009

A ah ha moment

I had a ah ha moment this morning after I got up, got my coffee, and turned on the tv. Joel Osteen is on and mind you I dont get into teleevangelist or go to church but he was talking about when one door closes and another opens and how when things seem at their worse how something better happens. I just sad and listened to his preaching infront of this huge congregation. OMG it looks like a stadium and not a church. But listening to him really made me realize that everything is going to be alright and not to be in a hurry for things to happen and to relax, things will fall into place. I am wanting things to happen so quickly that I am not letting myself enjoy what I have right now and how blessed I am right now. In other words smell the roses as they say.
I needed to hear that so badly. Sometimes I find myself feeling so anxious and insecure and thinking that things wont work out. Crazy. I need to relax. Go with the flow.

So enough of that. I did start clearing out the clutter and man its amazing how much lighter I feel when I do that. I am still working on it but can now see myself actually dusting the living room and vacumning. My little dining room table is cleared off and I pulled out this cool glass candle holder and put a candle in it.
My plan is to keep on going with putting stuff in its place and cleaning.
I did work last nite but only for 3 hours. Perfect. I went in for 5:15 and got out of work by 8:30. Nice. Didnt get woke up in the middle of the night. It was so nice, slept in til 7. 3 hours is perfect. Now I am on back up and am not the 1st person to be called in today or tonight. Now if work is busy and we need to keep preop open and have lots of patients then I will have to go in but probably not til after 6pm. That will be after the football games. So its all kool.
I cannot believe in a million years that the cardinals won against the Panthers. The cardinals suck and I do truely mean suck, but they won in the panthers stadium and big time. So now we will see who they play next week, either the eagles in cardinals stadium or the giants in new york or should I say NJ. Either way I cant seen them winning against either. If I had to pick a winner in the game today giants vs eagles, I hate both tesms. The only thing about the eagles is their quarter back, I like donavan mcnabb but hate the team and their fans. They suck. The giants, I dont want them to win because they were in the superbowl last year year. So their you have it. I dont have a team to root on. I do know I want the San Diego chargers to win against Pittsburg. So thats my feelings on football today.
I hope everyone is having a great weekend!

Saturday, January 10, 2009

overwhelmed

I feel overwhelmed right now. I am looking at my house which is in total disarray from not cleaning in a month. Yuck. I look at each room as I go thru and see all this stuff I need to do something with. Plants that I have neglected. Where do I start. I did start in the kitchen cleaning up the dishes. I also started going clockwise in the kitchen as far as the counter goes. Sometimes I can side tracked. I start in one room and then I am doing something in another and notice that every thing leads to something else you know. I need help.
I am on call today so I dont want to run myself ragged cleaning all day and then be exhausted tonight if I work. I did get a good nights sleep. Woohoo that was nice as far as sleeping in.
So I guess I will continue in the kitchen as far as the counter goes and clear off the clutter. I just decided I need to clear the clutter in order to actually clean. Wipe the counter top offs, wash the floors, clean the bathrooms, dust, vacumn. If I start there I have some room to work. Okay I soved that one. Next will be the dining room table. Clear it off and get the chrstmas table cloth off and change it up for a winter look as far as a candle, ect.
Good plan. I am proud of myself for coming up with it. Okay slow and steady will get it done!!!!

Friday, January 9, 2009

I did it!

I did it! I finally got the cd from Samsung yesterday and got my firmware upgraded. I am now able to play my batman movies. I started with Batman Begins. I will have to save Dark Knight for another night. Too tired to watch both. In fact I am going to bed and to sleep at a decent time. I want a good night's sleep since I am on call this weekend. It starts at 0700 tomorrow am and ends Monday at 6am. 48 hours total.
I work I work, extra money. Need it so its all good.
I am very tired from this week. It has been very busy big time. Lots of surgeries.
Job Security.
I miss my honey. Cant wait til Friday! Then we will have our time. Woohoo.
Off to my movie.

Monday, January 5, 2009

Avoiding

I need to shovel. From all the snow we got yesterday again I have to shovel in front of my garage and walk way again. I looked at the forecast and it called for temps in the 50's this week until Friday and then more snow. So at lease there will be some warmth to help get rid of some of the snow. This year reminds me of the 1st year I moved here We got so much snow and it was so exciting. The snow stayed on the mountain til June/july. I have a feeling that will be the case this year also.
jr's mom and kids got in safe. JJ let them sleep in the apartment and he slept in the van just to have peace and quiet. I said something to him earlier about them not sleeping in the same bed and his response was "hell no". I will sleep in the van and they can sleep in my bed which I will wash the sheets before I sleep in it again.
They are getting on the road right now. I will be glad when they make here safe and he is done with all this. I am looking forward to seeing him and have a few minutes with him.
I need to get laundry done today and shovel. My only things on the list besides meeting up with JJ and then the girls for girlfriend time. I need to also make time to go out with my other friends who watched the dogs this weekend. I am going to take them out for a nice dinner.
I have several other appts this week, meeting with my counselor tomorrow, Hair appt, and White Trash Christmas Bungo. Should be fun. I am also on call this weekend so that is a chance to make extra money.
I am also going to get boxes from work so I can start packing a room at a time. Its time to get moving. JJ and I were throwing the idea around about if I dont sell the house by this Fall take a travel assignment and move down there. They will pay me money to live somewhere and then my check can pay for my house till I sell it. So its defiately an option and by the time I do a few travel assignments then I can really decide what I where I want to live and work full time. So the possibilities are endless. Woohoo for 2009. Mind you the trials are defiately going to make this year hard but then once they are done we can really move on. So here's to 2009.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Happy New Years!

Happy New Years All. Cant believe it but 2008 is over, thank god. I am looking forward to 2009 for sure. My time in Phoenix was great. New Years turned out to be awesome and we had a great time, even stayed out til 2am. We ended up at the bar across the street, dive, hole in the wall but it turned out to be awesome. The juke box going, lots of people, food. and the beer flowing. We even went out the next night and had a great time. Friday we ended up being bums. We went out for dinner and then just went home and laid in bed watching football and napping. Very tired.
Came back today. Jr's mom and her kids are on the bus to Phoenix to be brought up here by JJ in the morning. To much stress for sure I can tell you that. I will see him tomorrow. And then he has to get back down for work.
We cant believe our anniversary is in another month, 3 years. Amazing. Crazy but amazing. Alot has happened but we have come thru it all.
I love him so much. It will be nice when we are in a place together and settled so the back and forth will be over!